How learning to stop making rigid plans and go with the flow has got me through the last year

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In my late-teens and early twenties, I was a real planner. I had my life mapped out ahead of me with the milestones marked in: Go to uni. Go travelling. Get a job and work my way up the career ladder. Find a boyfriend. Get married. Buy a house…pretty much in that order.

I loved setting myself life goals — I was the queen of new years’ resolutions and bucket lists. In my mid-twenties I created my “30 before 30” list — the 30 things I wanted to achieve before turning 30 — and diligently set about ticking them off…


It’s not easy making sacrifices in your own career for someone else, but it changes your perspective on work when you do

Sometimes it feels like going through life blindfolded
Sometimes it feels like going through life blindfolded
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I’ve changed jobs a couple of times in the last few years, and it’s not been my choice. Well, that’s not fair. It was my choice, in that I accepted the job offers. But the reason to leave the job before was not always in my control.

And this is because my last two job moves were tied to changes in my boyfriend’s career, which has taken him around the world. Every time I quit a job, I moved to a different country (I talk a bit about this in my last post). Whilst this has been incredibly exciting, and…


Girl in colourful skirt crossing road after quitting job
Girl in colourful skirt crossing road after quitting job
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I quit my job recently. It’s the first time in my 10 year career that I’ve left a job, but not the country the it was in. It’s only recently that it occurred to me as being a strange situation. It’s not normal for people to quit a job and then completely up sticks on their life, move to a foreign country and start all over again. Yet that’s basically what I’ve been doing for all of my working life.

And one thing I found when handing in my notice for my most recent job, was that it was a…


Wooden table with mug of coffee on it: finding your passion takes practice
Wooden table with mug of coffee on it: finding your passion takes practice
Sometimes you just have to begin

When I was young, I was always busy, always learning. I played instruments — the piano and the oboe — not necessarily because I chose to, but I was strongly encouraged. And I got good at them. Through this, I was able to have incredible experiences: making friends, travelling, experiencing culture. But I didn’t really enjoy the practice of playing — the work, the stress, the discipline that went with it. Of course I didn’t — who does? …

Sophie Clark

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